This week I turned 50, happy birthday to me! 🎉 When I imagined this day I thought I would be on a tropical beach or somewhere exciting but with COVID and life in general that wasn’t meant to be. I was lucky to be able to have a party and really celebrate my fortieth, this milestone was meant to be different, and that is OK. I did get to begin the day with my mum (I am very lucky that she is still here as I turn 50).
It was a very sad week though as I attended two funerals. The first was for a beautiful woman Kylie who I met through networking, we both volunteered on Women with Altitude’s Penrith team together. She was a kind person with a beautiful energy who brought love and joy to many people (especially her two beautiful children) which was very clear in the depth of emotion and the fun stories shared at her celebration of life.
The second was for my first love; John was my first boyfriend when I was in high school. We were not meant to stay together and both moved on in our lives however I have always held a place for him in my heart and was very happy to see him become a dad and grandad, whenever I saw him at reunions or in our Facebook chats he talked very proudly about his children, they meant the world to him. Again his service was beautiful and moving, especially the smoking ceremony and didgeridoo played at his graveside as they lowered him into the earth, he was a fun and cheeky man with lots of love for his family and friends. He had a very loud and hearty laugh that was contagious. I will miss him.
Both lives well lived and ended way too soon. 💔
Lately I have been reflecting on my life and what I have learned, here are some thoughts:
Good people are worth their weight in gold.
Life is shorter than you think
, tell people you love them, they won’t be around forever.
I am lucky to have my own business and do what I love, it hasn’t been easy but it has been worth it!
Gratitude is essential, I am happy to have made it to 50, not everyone gets that privilege
. There was a time when I didn’t think I would make it to 30.
My weight goes up and down, I am a pear and I accept that is true for me and that my value as a human being does not improve or diminish with these changes. The longest relationship that I will have in this life is with my body, I am learning to make peace with it
, love and appreciate my body and all the amazing things it does.
Good nutrition has an amazing healing power however obsessing about the right diet and calories day in and day out, year after year is harmful!
Look after your health the best you can, you will miss it when it is gone!
Fiona Kane Fiftieth Birthday!
People will decide who they think you are and there is nothing you can do about it
, as Dr Phil’s father said “what other people think of you is none of your business” they may even cast you as the “bad guy” in their story, you have no control over their perception of you. You only have control over your own choices and behaviour, focus on that.
I was not meant to have children; that is OK, I think it was not my destiny. I get to use my mothering energy on my loved ones and clients and then lots of time to indulge in learning and engaging in the many things I have a passion for, lucky me!
The important moments in life are not always the biggest things
. In fact, they are often the small things, the smile, the joke, the shared cuppa, the chat, the magical moments of connection etc. If we are always looking back to when we were happy or looking forward to when we will be happy, we miss the moments that are right there in front of us, even in the darkest of times
. You won’t suddenly become happy when you buy the thing, have the house, fit into smaller jeans etc. Happiness is something you cultivate by looking for moments of beauty, truth and connection and find moments for gratitude in every day life. Don’t miss it by not being present.
One of the hardest things in life is learning to be present in the moment and sometimes that means being vulnerable, experiencing sadness or fear rather than running from it, having trust or faith that even though you can’t see the way if you just keep moving forward, it will show itself to you in time.
It is more than OK to ask for help, it is essential, we don’t have all the answers and humans need connection
My younger life was about learning, gathering, collecting, armouring myself, this all had a purpose at the time, as I get older life is more about letting go, putting stuff down, dropping the armour
, stepping into myself and my power and so much more …….
This is not a dress rehearsal, life is for living!
I don’t pretend to have all of this stuff sorted all of the time but I am doing my best!
Happy 50th birthday to me, I’m feeling grateful, I have a cup of hot English breakfast tea at hand and right now my dear hubby who I have now been with for 31 years is baking a gluten free banana bread and cooking a gourmet breakfast. 😋 I live in a beautiful home (built by hubby) and can look across the trees and hills in the beautiful Hawkesbury (on the outskirts of Sydney, Australia). My health is good, I love my work and I have a great family and network of clients, friends and supporters. I know that I am blessed and don’t take any of it for granted
. I think my spirit animal is a sloth, it takes it time, knows who it is and doesn’t seem to stress 🦥. Fiona xoxo