Are you wasting your talent, or do you choose to nurture it?

Today’s news is an insight into the results we achieve in our lives based on a series of decisions we make every day throughout our life.

A talented artist, Amy Winehouse, dead at 27.

A talented athlete, Cadel Evans, poised to win the Tour de France.

Both worked hard at their craft and nurtured their talent to achieve their goals. Amy unfortunately chose to sabotage herself over and over. It doesn’t matter how amazingly talented you are, you have to truly believe you are capable and worthy of great things, otherwise even when you achieve great things you choose to sabotage yourself (even though this is often at an unconscious level). We see this over and over again with famous actors, musicians and athletes.

I don’t know much about their lives, I am sure they have both had triumphs and tragedy that influenced their decisions. This is not meant to be a judgement, I respect that people are free to make their own choices, I just personally find Amy’s choices very sad.

If you want to achieve success (whatever that means for you) in your life, you need to believe in yourself, you need to surround yourself with other people who believe in you and not people who are just there to undermine and use you.

You also need to make a decision every day about what you choose to believe and what you choose to do that will help you achieve your success. This could be success in a career, success in impoving your health, healing relationships – anything really.

If you are having trouble believing in yourself, remember we all experience that, it is not just you who feels insecure – everyone experiences insecurity at times no matter how confident and successful they seem. If you can’t overcome this, ask for help. People who achieve success almost always have mentors or at the very least someone who inspires them who helps them with their mindset and plan of action.

This can be as simple as reading books about successful people who inspire you to see how they did it. Joining groups of like minded people or maybe finding a health professional who can help you with your health. Your physical, mental and spiritual health. All of which are important.

I work with mentors in my field, I have worked with a few business coaches, I have also worked with a hypnotherapist to help me with my mindset. I ask for the help I need, I don’t try and figure it out alone. I also surround myself with people who love and support me but also keep me grounded and REAL.

I love the lyrics from Something They Can Hold by a beautiful friend of mine Emma Dean:

“The magic is lost
when you disconnect
for you can’t rewind
when you’ve hit eject
And as time moves on
you’ll long for that friend
who told you the truth
who would not pretend”

Every day is an opportunity, do you choose to waste it or take it?